I was on the train the other day, and as usual it was a bit too crowded for me. There were so many kids on the train, and the whole car smelled like sour milk. To my luck there was a seat and I didn't mind the smell anymore because I was praying for a seat, I had a lot of studying to catch up on. Even though the train was so loud from all the different conversations going on I was able to get some work done .... Yayyyyyy. On Ave M this elderly man enters the train and and he seems to be struggling to get to his seat its not that it wasn't available its just he was using a cane and he was a bit wabbly. One of the kids on the train tried to help him to his seat but to his suprise as well as mine and the entire cars the elderly man rudely said he didn't need help and kinda pushed him away. I felt bad for the kid and also for the elderly man.
What does one do in that situation. I mean on one hand the kid was nice enough to help out the man, but on the other here we have this man who probably never really needed help to do anything, further more sit down. I mean I don't know what its like to need help to do simple things like sit down but I'm sure that it can't feel too good. I guess by that kid offering to help him out made him feel helpless and dependent. What does one go through when your independence is lost?
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From experience it is different for every person. I have a cousin that is lazy as sin and when he broke his leg he had no problem being waited on hand and foot by his mother. That was the time he was floating away on cloud nine.
ReplyDeleteBut when my grandmother came home after surgery, it was hell for her having to depend on us to take care of her. She is so use to getting up five in the morning and taking care of everyone else until we go to bed. So it is really all depending on the individual.
yeah..it's depend on who they are. probably, the old man is a person who HAS BEEN so independent and have strong self-respecting. If i were him, I felt appreciate the kid's help.
ReplyDeleteI hoped the kid asked first. I still don't think the old man should have been rude. I mean think about next time because of this experience the kid might not even offer help.
ReplyDeletei think that the kid should have asked. but, i will always help if i see someone in need. as for what one experiences when losing independence, i can imagine, there is a sense of betrayal (by your body), grief for the lost mobility...and along the way, acceptance? i am able-bodied, priveleged and all that, and yet i still have gripes about my life. it is only in my humble moments of grace that i remember that i have the gift of life and i must accept it and appreciate the struggles AND triumphs as a package deal.
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